If you can learn and practice some of these tips next year you will be so happy and ultimately your friends and family will be too! Thanks to MoMeo as the inspiration of this post
Friday’s 5 TrackMom Mojo and Mindset Tips
1. Protect Yourself from Toxic People! (also known as Hater’s) just like toxic chemicals toxic people can damage you more than you first perceive don’t let them steal your joy and your enthusiasm for your sport, your child’s success and your own lifes happiness. A very good friend once said to me Lorraine “don’t get your peace get caught up in someone else’s head”. Limit your exposure to these people and situations this helps to prevent toxic side effects. “Engaging with a toxic person adds stress to your life and damages your self-esteem. You must stop giving of your time and self to a person who brings no value to you. It is time to put you first.”
2. Let Go Of The Guilt! When you make a decision to really take care of your own needs from time to time like, missing a track meet ,not staying for the entire practice, not cooking the perfect healthy dinner for your athlete you will feel guilty it’s a mom thing. You can’t do it all so do what you can and build from there. Know that you are a good mom just not a battery always charged mom. You have to take time for recharge which in the end makes you better for your family and your team.
3. Recognize The Importance Of Your Language! Writer Aly Pain talks about the most dangerous words for moms I rephrased one here. The most dangerous phase: “I AM JUST A TRACK MOM” OMGosh…I was so guilty of this a couple of years ago. It’s important to understand the role language plays in constructing our mental and our children’s mental lives, and thus the results those beliefs manifest around us. The more you diminish what you do as a fully engaged mom; the more smallness and disrespect you attract to the work you do as a mom on behave of your kids. Own your true value as the keeper and co-developer and enhancer of your kids’ dreams and life success they can’t do it on their own….You didn’t. “Everyday and every way our children spread their dreams beneath our feet We Should Tread Softly Ken Robinson
4. Stick to Your Goals! There is a lot of great information out there on setting and achieving goals. Make them Meaningful and Sincere, break them down into small doable steps, create a vision board (My favorite part). But here’s the thing about goals, if they are not utterly irresistible to you, no matter how pretty the vision board is, you won’t do them. Don’t share it with too many people at first get the ball rolling…..your brain needs to do the work before feeling good about it. telling people makes it think it has already happened and thus sometimes short circuits your daily progress. When you do share your kids will know you do what you say and you expect a similar behavior from them. You tell yourself you are worthy of a job well done pat over time, not a microwave gal quick and easy. Asking yourself “How are you going to succeed in this?” This can be very helpful. Why? The brain loves to answers questions! When asked a question, your mind will immediately start working on coming up with all of the things you would need to have in place in order to be successful. NOW GO SEIZE YOUR GOALS!
5.Stay Out Of Overwhelm. Don’t even say the word! We go into overwhelming times most often because of …
1. Lack of restful sleep,
2. Lack of meaningful planning the most import tasks that make us feel accomplished
3. Overbooking our task list
4. Assuming it is easier to “Just do it myself”
5. Not paying attention to your physiological markers of danger i.e.; hormonal flux, seasonal baggage, unspoken, important words to our spouse.
All of these and more can leave us bitter, resentful, and sacrificially drained. Don’t go it alone your kids’ need you present and accounted for ask for help drop a few tasks hey…” JUST DON’T DO IT” sometimes No is a resounding Yes to our mental health and wellbeing.
Set Clear Boundaries! Train your family and friends as to what is expected from them toward you. The untrained family member friend or child will continue to make last-minute requests seemingly unconcerned that their little request forced you to cancel important plans to make their request possible. Training people to your needed boundaries is most effective using clear and simple requests.
Happy New Year!!